daveguy014:

The shit I deal with. By the way he blocked me right after I sent the last message. Believe it or not, I don’t mind hookups. To me sex is sex and it’s nothing to be ashamed of as long as you are safe about it. However… Treating me as a fetish because of my skin color and calling me a “gangsta” is lowering me as a person and I don’t take kindly to that. And what’s funny people will say “oh it’s grindr.” That’s no excuse for being a racist, judgmental prick. Welcome to the false gay community folks.

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http://bankuei.tumblr.com/post/97775772240/fictivemonger-vixx-en-its-just-like-so

fictivemonger:

vixx-en:

it’s just like so weird cause a lot of tumblrisms are clearly stemmed from aave and then killed by non-black POC & white people hence their constant misuse and eventual overuse, until black people come up w more terms to use 

terms like

  • basic
  • prayer circle
  • thirst/thirsty/the thirst
  • (example) game on point
  • (example) game strong
  • slay
  • shade
  • bruh
  • hunty
  • bae
  • stay in [pronoun] lane

etc etc etc

stop usin aave just because you learned it on tumblr

you’re still not entitled to it and you’re especially not if you just use it to seem hip and cool and funny

cause what it boils down to is that you don’t use it for expression andyou were not raised to speak like that, nor do you live around people who speak like that— you just use it to be funny in front of your friends and that’s the thing I don’t like

this is a good post and im going to go ahead and add that the very popular word fuckboy is aave and existed pre tumblr in the black community stop using it

you were not raised to speak like that, nor do you live around people who speak like that— you just use it to be funny in front of your friends

Something you learn, if you did grow up with AAVE - it takes work to learn how NOT to use it, to codeswitch into something ‘appropriate’ (Non-Black) for the sake of getting jobs, getting through school, getting past the border when you travel. 

And even then you haven’t suffered anti-Blackness and you’d already know that, if you actually grew up with AAVE and Black folks.

I get twitchy watching the news or mainstream tv talk shows and hearing people say “bling” or “Baby Mama” and “Get your X on” etc.  Because these phrases were first condemned, then mocked, now they’re becoming normalized while at the same time, Black people aren’t.

If female fans are dismissed more easily, then so are their interests, their spaces, and their primary forms of engagement. Or, said differently, gender discrimination occurs on the level of the fan, the fan activity, and the fannish investment. There is a ready truism that enthusiasm for typically male fan objects, such as sports and even music, are generally accepted whereas female fan interests are much more readily mocked. Likewise, fangirls are mocked as is fan fiction, an activity more commonly ascribed to females. More than that, affect and forms of fannish investment get policed along gender lines, so that obsessively collecting comic books or speaking Klingon is more acceptable within and outside of fandom than creating fan vids or cosplaying. Even the same behavior gets read differently when women do it: sexualizing celebrities, for example, is accepted and expected among men but gets quickly read as inappropriate when done by women.

"Geek hierarchies, boundary policing, and the gendering of the good fan" Kristina Busse, Participations 10.1 (2013)

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hellborndaughter:

girldwarf:

the-treble:

sadim0uto:

Hello!! I’m in need of a HUGE signal boost right now (and maybe a big reporting session) because my best friend is being blackmailed by her ex boyfriend. 

I’m not exactly sure what I’m supposed to put here, but I feel like this should be a warning for anyone who knows him and just a general informative thing. Jacob lives in Australia and is 16 years of age. They’ve had a very unhealthy relationship and he’s threatened sending out her nudes multiple times. Jacob is very manipulative and emotionally abusive towards her and even ends up pulling me and her other friends into not being able to do anything because it’ll end up hurting her. He’s made around 7 Twitter accounts to contact my friend in the times that she was trying to get out of the relationship.

In the picture above, he’s posted her nudes and threatened her.

ALL IM ASKING IS FOR YOU TO REPORT HIM ON EVERYTHING AND ANYTHING:

His Twitter accounts all start with @/neinthousand but the one that was most recently used was: @/neinthousand12 (but it was apparently deleted)

His Facebook account is: Jacob R Hynes, and he has more but I am unable to find them. They’re under Jacob Hynes and the like.

If he’s revealing pictures of a minor, he could be guilty of distributing child porn. Have fun throwing him in prison.

TAG HIS NAME in the reblog, and google search is more likely to pull this up! 

seriously, call the police and report him for being in possession of and having intent to distribute child porn

Lesson One: Proper Citation
Men get quoted using surnames
Marx, Foucault, Habermas
But my professor keeps referring to my favorite theorists as
Iris, Emma, Rosa
or, because pronouns are hard, they ask me trick questions like
“Is it Judith or Jack now?”
knowing full well the answer is Halberstam.
My female professors get cited as Ann and Vicky
in articles written by their colleagues because
We’re all friends here, right?

Lesson Two: Decorum
At my first college debate tournament the men talked over every speech I gave
“She needs her partner to do the work for her because she’s an idiot”
while the judge sat there pretending not to hear
until I yelled “Fuck you” in the middle of my last speech.
The judge docked me speaker points because
using swear words is very unladylike.
He used my prep time to tell me so.

Lesson Three: Panel Etiquette
My adviser gave a talk on the politics of eating together at a conference
and spent her entire Q&A fielding thinly veiled jabs and questions like
“What if you don’t have a table” while the audience talked over her.
“If you don’t have a table, you take a table,” she spoke into the mic.
And I wondered if I could expect to be called honey and sweetie and young lady
at panels and if I cut off the speakers midway through and say
Imma let you finish but don’t EVER call me anything but my name again
would they use my speech time to chastise me for swearing?

Lesson Four: Constructing Arguments
When you’re the only feminist in the department, wear a skirt that’s too short and a pin in your lapel that says “Keep Warm, Burn the Rich”.
When the straight men tell you they don’t understand queer theory, tell them queer theory doesn’t understand them.
When they insult your work, insult their arguments. Is that ~political~ enough?
Don’t wait your turn. You don’t have to be polite.
Take the fucking table because you have earned your fucking seat.

this school wasn’t meant for me to learn in // Rhiannon Love

15/30 is a day late SORRY I was drinking a milkshake and watching Fargo on FX.

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stfumras:

Daddy issues
Gold digger
Jail bait
Trophy wife
Side chick
Mistress
Home wrecker
Slut Whore Hussy Harlot Look how many words we have for women that are used to take all blame off of men. I’m sure there’s more I’m forgetting. Feel free to add.

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feral-fae:

Can we please just stop saying “special needs” when we mean “accommodations that level the playing field so disabled peeps can get their shit done”? I don’t have special needs. I have reasonable needs. I don’t need you to make school and work easy for me. I don’t need easier tasks. I need to be provided with the tools to make tasks doable. That’s not “special.”

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It is not possible to be truly balanced in one’s views of an abuser and an abused woman. As Dr. Judith Herman explains eloquently in her masterwork Trauma and Recovery, “neutrality” actually serves the interests of the perpetrator much more than those of the victim and so is not neutral. Although an abuser prefers to have you wholeheartedly on his side, he will settle contentedly for your decision to take a middle stance. To him, that means you see the couple’s problems as partly her fault and partly his fault, which means it isn’t abuse.

"Why Does He Do That: Inside The Minds of Angry and Controlling Men" by Lundy Bancroft

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I have never seen the Neutrality Fallacy explained so succinctly before.

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"We must always take sides. Neutrality helps the oppressor, never the victim. Silence encourages the tormentor, never the tormented." - Elie Wiesel

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glowcloud:

ask—quick—man:

glowcloud:

like honestly if you’re a dude with a huge following I think the best feminist activism u can do is just to reblog women’s voices i really think you should not be giving ur opinion on anything feminist whatsoever just knowing that people are gonna take what u say to be the FeministTruth when u really have no place speaking about it at all

and that is why men don’t like you

what about my post made you think that i want men, as a group, to like me

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scintillen:

heylookitsliz:

elizabeth-antoinette:

ikenbot:

freeselfdefense:

Rape Escape

  • Easy and very effective
  • Requires nothing but your body
  • Includes attack

Very useful to know, pass and share please.

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I don’t mean to impose a personal favour on you guys, but I really would like to ask that everyone who follows me reblog this. 

I don’t think I made it very clear but last month I was sexually assaulted by someone who I thought was my friend (I don’t want to talk about it don’t ask), and it’s… really fucked with my head. 

Had I known this a month ago I would have been able to get away

So, essentially, I’m really pleading with you to reblog this so everyone who follows you doesn’t get stuck in the same position I was with no way out. 

I mean again I don’t want the point of this to be my sob story or whatever but if you could reblog this it would seriously mean a lot 

Informative

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Nearing the end of this literary saga, as I’m emotionally invested in the main character they die.

i WANT TO HAVE skinnier thighs *sigh* I hate going shopping for new clothes, especially for summer.

desdeotromar:

sufferingsappho:

My entire check this month is gonna be gone in like two days. Like, I’m not even gonna have money for food this month. Fuck me

For everyone who wants to help trans women of color. For everyone who wants to protect black trans women.

sufferingsappho (a black trans girl) is in great need and is asking for donations to her paypal. If you can spare any cash, go to her page and hit the donate button. If not, please reblog this post.

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CollegeHumor explains Net Neutrality

collegehumor:

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I’m Adam.

-And I’m Emily.

We make “funny videos” on the Internet.

-But soon, we might not be able to.

That’s because…

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…net neutrality is in jeopardy. Net Neutrality is the principle that says ISPs can’t discriminate between different types of traffic.

That means that…

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…whether you’re a bedroom music producer, a couple on an amateur porn site, or just someone with a start up idea - you get access to the same users as Netflix, Facebook or Amazon. On the Internet, anyone can succeed.

But…

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…America’s ISPs wanna set up a pay-for-play system where rich companies pay extra to get to those users first.

If this happens…

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…instead of a wonderful playground if innovation that it is now, the Internet will become like cable TV where you can only get stuff that’s been pre-approved by a bunch of old rich guys.

Ten years from now…

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…your Internet bill could be a bigger “fustercluck” than your cable bill.

Now, you might be thinking…

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…isn’t the government supposed to protect me from fragrant doucheholery like this?

Unfortunately…

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…the former chairman of the FCC (government agency that’s SUPPOSED to protect you) is now the cable industry’s head lobbyist. And another former cable industry lobbyist is now the CURRENT head of the FCC.

So…

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…we can’t trust the FCC to make the right decision on their own. That’s why WE need to protect the Internet we love. The chaotic, AWESOME, often quite weird, place where literally everyone’s voice can be heard.

In a few months…

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…the FCC will approve this festering soal of proposal unless we speak up. The Internet is one of the few places where human voices speak louder than money. So while that’s still the case, let’s use those voices. Go to DEARFCC.ORG and tell them to protect Net Neutrality. Thanks for doing your part to protect the Internet.

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Contact FCC at https://dearfcc.org/

IF DEARFCC.ORG IS DOWN, simply go to good oldhttp://www.savetheinternet.com/

All GIFS are courtesy of our new friend, RANDY!

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